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Rick Webster is the Founder and CEO of Rena-Fi, a financial literacy education company dedicated to creating ADHD-friendly resources and support systems. 

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November 2020

It’s so relaxing when you have nothing to prove …  

The other day, in this politically charged environment we’ve created for ourselves, listening to  an acquaintance give oversimplified and flat-out wrong political admonitions, I did the standard  “ADHD tune out.” I mean, seriously, does anyone honestly think they’re going to change anyone  else’s mind on such fundamental issues of character?  

While he kept pontificating … I devoted ten percent of my consciousness to managing the  socially lubricating nods and head shakes required to maintain my side of his sermon.  

“Dunning Kruger” came quietly to mind. But why complicate the encounter? 

A cool thing about our ADHD minds is our ability to connect dots that seemingly have nothing  to do with each other. Sometimes they do. This time, my mind flashed over to all of the unsolicited ADHD management advice I’ve been on the receiving end of … ofttimes passive-aggressive, character assassinating advice. 

I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about. Try Yoga. You should meditate. Cannabis,  that’s what you need … or the latest fancy flashing light therapy. Just do it. Stop being lazy.  Everyone has that. A hook near the door for your keys, that’s the ticket. Fish oil, that’s the cure! Just get a better day-planner and USE IT, for god’s sake! What’s wrong with you? We  know you can do it, we’ve seen you do it before. Discipline, that’s what you need!  

I’ve learned a lot in twenty-plus years, post diagnosis. I’ve learned that most all of the  pejorative oversimplifications breakdown in the light of knowledge. 

I’m happy to share what I’ve learned but I no longer have a need to educate the willfully  ignorant. I’m well armed with facts but don’t feel an urge to defend myself against  misconceptions … no longer need to prove I’m right. 

Dimly aware of the person in front of me becoming a bit more emphatic, I return to the  conversation. Smile, “that’s very interesting” and attempt a graceful exit. Not feeling he was  “heard” my guest seemed intent on having another go at it.  I could almost hear the sound of a  boxing ring bell signaling round two.  

Unsatisfied, I’m sure, he seemed willing to buy my “I have somewhere to get to” exit plan. 

Richard Webster, the author of this article, is CEO and founder of Rena-Fi, Inc. His opinions and viewpoints expressed do not necessarily reflect that of Rena-Fi, Inc.

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