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Rick Webster is the Founder and CEO of Rena-Fi, a financial literacy education company dedicated to creating ADHD-friendly resources and support systems. 

Changing/Adding Habits & Routines

October 2020

Have you ever tried to change a habit or install a new routine into your life?  Do you wonder why such a simple thing often proves to be so frustrating?  This rings true not just for those of us diagnosed with ADHD.  Humans in general frequently underestimate the difficulty of changing our behaviors.  Without conscious observation, we do not understand the mechanics of the matrix of our lives that keep us in place, even when our rational mind craves change.

My opinion is that we have “set points.”  We are in a state of equilibrium.  Whether we like our position or not, “we are where we are” based on the interaction of all of the forces acting upon us … both internal and external.  Through sheer force of will, we can change for a time.  However, if we do not change our “set point of equilibrium,” we will find ourselves reverting to the old ways.*  Newton was right!  Actions and reactions.  It is ignorance or hubris to think we aren’t a product of natural law. 

We can see it as an inconvenient truth we’d prefer to deny.

  OR, 

To make lasting change, realize we must change our set points.  To do this, we must alter both the forces acting upon us, as well as our reactions to them.  

In the simplest terms:

This can mean strengthening the things that help us, i.e., getting our sleep, diet and exercise under control.  Pruning the toxic people from our lives.  Building new relationships with ADHD friendly people who will enhance our best traits, and even offer us exciting challenges along our journey.  Seeking scientific / evidence based medications (when necessary) and behavioral modifications to help ourselves reign in the negative aspects of ADHD. It really is about what best suits your individual matrix.

I see this as eschewing problematic “appetites of the mind” that take us down addictive and dark paths.  Rejecting labels that place us as victims such as disordered, operating at a deficit, and suffering from an across the lifespan pathology.

ADHD is a neurological brain function difference.  There is nothing to cure.

We are not victims unless we choose to be.  We have the ability to strengthen that which helps us, and weaken the ties that hold us back.  It is not a matter of will power.   It is a matter of self-care and choice … the choices we are free to make everyday.  

That’s how I see it.

*The book entitled  Willpower is Not Enough (reprinted and published c. early nineties) lays out this argument rather convincingly.

Richard Webster, the author of this article, is CEO and founder of Rena-Fi, Inc. His opinions and viewpoints expressed do not necessarily reflect that of Rena-Fi, Inc.

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