When adversity shows up suddenly, we can go into a temporary state of shock, shutdown, or even denial. Our minds go numb. We “can’t believe” this is happening to us. This is the case even if it has been developing over time. We may hide our heads in the sand, not wanting to look, and thus missing the cues that could have prepared us to take advance action. But here’s the thing: if you can’t see it, you can’t fix it.